Top Two Ways On How To Improve Self Esteem (Improving Self Confidence )

Improving self-esteem can be very difficult for most of the people. This is because the mind and body had accepted the negative suggestions internally and externally. The mind and body can be too comfortable of what has been processed that not allowing changes easily. Knowing the root factors and taking the right and effective steps can gradually improve your self-esteem.

The studies show that there 2 main ways on how to improve your self-esteem.

1. Change your internal opinions about yourself:

Since your younger age, you might have experienced many difficult situations and disappointments. Those situations have been fixed in your subconscious mind and have concluded some negative suggestions about yourself. For an example, if you have seen your parents earned money in hard ways, you might have fixed in your mind that you are poor and earning money can never be easy. This mind-set will affect your self-esteem on getting richer or earning good money in your life. The same thing happens on your failures that you face in your life. When you have failed in your driving test a few times, you might feel that you will not be able to drive well or you have no capability to drive. Your mind accepts this statement and makes your self-esteem level to go down and bring more failures to you.

Your self-esteem level that caused by your own mental block can be improved by writing down all your negative thoughts about yourself that have been collected in your mind. Take time to think back all the things that you have concluded negatively about you. Remember that these conclusions are just suggestions by your experiences and they are not true. You can change them with right steps. After you write down all the negative conclusions that you have about yourself, you can just think if those thoughts are worth having by you. You are naturally powerful and capable of doing anything. All you can do now is take action to change all the things that you think you need to change. You can challenge yourself to prove that you are capable to do anything. For an example, you can attend separate driving courses to improve your driving skill to see yourself to pass the test the very next time you take it!

2. Change You Negative Opinions That You Have From External Factors:

You meet many people everyday in your life. You friends, family members, relatives or even strangers might give you negative comments about you most of the time. The comments can be about your physical appearance, about your capabilities or anything else. More you listen and accept the negative comments about you, your mind can believe that statements and fix them to yourself. This can make you to lose your confidence on that certain area and make you to not able to success. Again, you must remember that people can say anything about you from their opinion. They are just opinions and they might not be true. It is not fair for you to accept their suggestions and ruin your own life and talents.

The steps are similar and easy. Write down all the suggestions that you have accepted from outside. Read them again and decide they are worth having in your beautiful life. You have to decide to change those negative suggestions by taking them away from your life. The only way to eliminate them away from you life will be writing down all the actions that you can take to improve in the specifically suggested areas. Remember that you have to decide to take actions to change only those things that important to be changed. Do not have to struggle by changing all the suggestions. Choose the best that need changes to improve your self-esteem and take the steps. For an example, if people say you look fat, and if it affects your self-confidence and if you think it is necessary to reduce down your weight, take action and join gym sessions! You will see yourself losing weight and gain your self-confidence back.

Using the Fear of Failure to Motivate You

In most cases the fear of failure 'intimidates' people and this is why it can turn so many away from their intentions or goals! On the other hand this same fear can also help strengthen or renew your motivation as well! People often use the benefits they will experience if they successfully reach their goals as a way of getting motivated. Why not turn that around and consider what you stand to lose thereby making you fear failure and as a result giving you the drive needed to succeed!

Let's look at how we can turn these fears into a source that will make getting motivated a relatively simple act!

Establish Realistic Goals

Making your goals realistic is the key and the only type of goals you should EVER set! These objectives should be achievable in terms of your abilities and resources otherwise you are setting yourself up to fail! This is very dangerous since you may be discouraged from ever attempting to set or reach any other 'challenging' goals again! This means you'll be forever content with not improving yourself or your situation or in other words you stop living! If what you established is achievable it makes it easier for getting motivated to tackle each and every objective you've set! No sense overwhelming yourself since nothing will get done other than increasing your own frustration!

Take Action

Setting realistic expectations for yourself makes taking the 'first' step easier and increasing the probability that you'll take any action at all! Your motivation should be at its highest level once your embark upon your quest to accomplish what you have set out to do! As progress is being made you realize you 'can' do it and if you consider the consequences you face if you decide to quit you should fear failure enough to keep moving forward!

Accept Who You Are

After establishing 'doable' objectives which you have actually undertaken all that stands between you and their successful completion is a total meltdown on your part! You ready to accept that and embrace your motivation or lack thereof as who you are? We're talking pride and a admission that you are voluntarily ready to accept what appears to be the fact you are a loser! Ouch! Harsh but true! Get your ass moving and finish what you started since once you do I promise you'll set the bar a little higher for yourself the next time and succeed once again! Congratulations you now fear failure more than you do the effort it takes to succeed! Amazing what we all can accomplish by getting a little air between our butts and the couch isn't it?

The fear of failure is a common one that keeps many from even attempting to establish or reach certain goals and objectives. But what if you fear failure and all it may represent to you in such a way that it can actually strengthen your motivation to succeed! This can and is often done and the discussion above 'chronicles' the process involved in using the prospects of falling short of any goals for getting motivated! In it human nature to focus on acquiring benefits more so than doing without or even losing them simply because the prospects are more attractive! However when facing the prospects of a loss of any type the feelings that you experience are another effective way for getting motivated to prevent this from happening!

The 7 Secrets of Magic

In my life I've been fortunate to witness many healings and miracles. From this direct experience I've noticed seven essentials ingredients to allowing magic in one's life:

1. Realize that there are no real "secrets" to magic

The keys to successful manifestation are apparent and obvious if you know where to look for them. These clues are not actually secret or hidden. It's simply that in our Western culture we're not taught where and how to look for manifestations of magic.

To discover more magic in your life, you can ask yourself, "If I knew where to look for magic in my daily life, where would I look?" Then, let go and allow whatever unfolds to unfold.

Pay attention to whatever occurs that's fresh and different in your everyday life. By paying attention to what's new, you'll find magical happenings. The miracles will occur outside your old frame of reference and expectation.

2. Learn to "see beyond"

If you look at the surface appearance of the world, you will only perceive what you "think" is there. For instance, if after first glance, you've decided your car keys are not on the hall table, then you won't be able to observe them lying there. But if you decide instead to focus your perception on what "might possibly" be on the hall table, you'll greatly increase the probability that you'll be able to see the keys lying there.

If you only look at the superficial appearance of your world, you'll only perceive what you've been told (or told yourself) to notice. You won't (can't) perceive anything else because you've been told (programmed) to believe it's not there. But if you direct your perception toward what is there that "you've not been told about," you'll greatly increase the range of possibility of what you can see. In my experience with friends, only the people who genuinely allow for the possibility of levitation are able to see a person levitate when it actually happens in their presence.

Also, if you focus your perception on what you can "see" (feel) behind the surface appearance of things, you'll perceive a whole magical world of pure energy. When you play with the creating energy patterns behind the surface "object" reality, the apparent world becomes infinitely malleable. It's much easier to heal a bone that you perceive as made of densely packed energy than it is to heal a bone you hold in mind as solid, hard, rigid physical matter.

3. Look past the obvious and normal

If you direct your attention to what is "obscured by the obvious and normal," you'll be able to perceive a world of fresh and different possibility. You can consciously decide to "override" your conditioned perceptional filters by deliberately deciding to only look for what is new and different. Then you'll see options that were always there, but you didn't see before because you weren't looking for them!

For example, if you're brought up in a culture (ancient and native societies) in which it's "normal" to perceive the spirits of deceased loved ones, then it'll be easy for you to see them. In these cultures it's not only socially acceptable to see dead relatives, it's socially expected! Even as late as the Middle Ages it was common and perfectly acceptable for people in Europe to see angels and ghosts.

If you're raised in a culture (the modern West) in which people are labeled "crazy" if they see angels or "spooks," then you either are not be able to perceive other dimensional beings (out of self preservation). Or you'll actually see them but keep your mouth shut!

4. Stalk the unusual

If you look for what is "out-of-the-ordinary," you'll perceive a whole different world of opportunities. Look for what is "out-of-sequence," what is "out of context" and "out of character."

Decide to notice what is "outside-the-box"--that is, outside your regular realm of experience. If you look into that "empty" space with openness, innocence of expectation and welcoming surprise, you'll be rewarded with unexpected (magical) occurrences!

5. Look in the "gaps"

As you conceive, so you shall perceive. If you conceive of the world as individual, separate objects--as we are conditioned to in Western culture--you'll only perceive individual, separate objects. But, if, instead, you look at the "gap" or space between these objects, you'll "see" into the energy field that connects all "separate" objects. You'll see into what I call the "creative void" or "creative vacuum." This magical space is void of human thought form--that is, free of conditioned perceptional filters.

Seeing into the energy field of the Gap, you have entry into the world of free-flowing, flexible, fluid energy reality. It's much easier to make radical changes in this fluid reality that you know is connected to you energetically--than it is to alter a rigid "objective" reality that you feel is separate from you.

6. Feel into the void

If you feel into the "creative void," you discover a dynamic powerhouse of creative energy that we are all actually already using unconsciously to manifest our dreams. However, a wizard uses this creative energy consciously, deliberately, to attract what the wizard desires in life. The ordinary programmed (asleep) person doesn't know how to tap into this "hidden" creative energy.

7. Feel from your heart space

If you feel into the creative void with your heart, you'll have the power to invest your dreams with enough creative energy to actually manifest your dreams in the real, physical world (money, career, body, relations). If you use only the meager power of your mind, you won't generally have sufficient creative energy to physicalize, materialize, your goals.

Mental thoughts, affirmation and positive thinking are helpful, but very limited in the amount of creative power they can provide to materialize your dreams. The heart space, however, is the center of our very being. It has all the creative power necessary to manifest all the aspiration of your soul.

A Few Helpful Hints

You might say, "This all sounds attractive--but very challenging (hard)!" You might feel that these seven secrets to magic sound exciting, but tricky to put into successful practice.

Here are three approaches to allow yourself to attract more magic in your life:

A) Consciously decide to "temporarily suspend your normal conditioned state of disbelief." In the West, "temporary insanity' is an acceptable legal defense that will keep you from being locked away!

B) Be willing to be open to the possibility that something could occur outside your "normal" realm of expectation or experience.